Nobody escapes death, right? That's obvious. However, no matter when a loved one dies, you are rarely quite ready to face the fact that he or she is lost to you for this earthly life. Of course, you already knew that you would be sad when somebody who is close to you passed away. However, you might not have realized just how devastating the loss would be.
Whether the deceased was your spouse, your beloved child, another family member or even a very close friend, you might be going through the hardest time you've ever faced. From keeping a journal to joining a grief support group, here are some ideas that might help you to deal with the death of somebody you cared for deeply.
Write It Down - Have you ever heard that writing things down is good for the soul? Think of all of the poems and books that have been written that deal with the death of a loved one. It might be helpful for you to start a journal. Write down everything that goes through your mind. Perhaps you will write about sweet experiences that you shared with the person who has died. It might even be that you'll write down unfinished business.
For example, maybe you had quarreled with the deceased person, and you never had a chance to make amends. Consider writing a letter in your journal that is actually a letter to the person who died. Let them know how much you cared for him or her and how sorry you are for what happened. Keeping a journal may help you to see whether or not the days are getting easier as time goes by.
Join A Grief Group - If you just can't get past your sadness, it might be time for you to seek help from others. Talk to somebody like the ecclesiastic leader at your church or your family doctor. It is likely that either one of them will be able to direct you to a group of other people who have experienced a great loss, or who are still going through the process of dealing with a loss.
At grief group meetings, you will be encouraged to share your feelings when you are ready to do so. The beautiful thing about attending grief support meetings is that you will have a great deal in common with the others who are present. And, soon you might even realize that you are helping others deal with their own loss.